well, i've been dealing with stupid B.S. emotional crap that i avoid to the point i stop dating, and school work.

I started seeing this girl at my school right before Valentines day and all was going smoothly until about two mondays ago ( i think. im over it now.). shes talkative, so when she like kinda stop talking alot i figured something was going down. that wensday, she deciced to end it and i was confused, but it was only three weeks, so no harm done right? Well, i found out that she broke up because im a total pussytfest (major points if you can figure out where that came from ) and im not all that comfortable with making it to second and third base. i guess i just dont feel comfortable with it unless i really know her and weve been dating for more than 3 weeks. i dont know. but anyways, one of my past girlfriends with whom im still good friends with broke up with her boyfriend because: a} he's the definition of the male chavinist douche and, b} he deicided that he was bored with her, even though theyve had sex a coupe times before(suppose it wasnt good enough for him...ass.). well my ex and her ex went to a party that weekend, got drunk and werent seen for some time. now i felt emo, and was gonna kick his ass, mainly because hes just an insensitive idiot. i decided to give up on everbecoming her friend and havent talked to her since. i met this girl whos the total opposite of her so im gonna see how this ends up. if you have anny advice, lay it out for me. id love to learn how to get over my fear of not being alittle more physical with women.

Truth be told, friend, it all depends on what you're looking for in a relationship. Based on what you're describing, it sounds like what you wanted out of the relationship and what she wanted were two different things... never a pleasant realization at any stage.

In terms of wanting to get over your fear of physical intimacy - that will happen when the time is right. If you don't feel comfortable until you've had the opportunity to get to know her better, go with your instincts on that. In my opinion, making sure that both of you are ready before you become physically intimate is the difference between rushing into something (and possibly regretting it later) and allowing something deeper to grow which can gradually blossom into intimacy.

So, I guess were I to offer advice, first of all you need to know yourself. What do you want out of the relationship? Are you looking for friendship that can slowly develop over time, or do you want something more casual? Once you know better what you want, it'll help you to understand what other people want out of relationships as well, and to find like-minded people to date. Not everyone wants the same thing, and knowing what she wants early on can help to avoid emotional trauma later down the line.

Best of luck to you.